April 30, 2012 4 Comments
I guess it’s two posts for the price of one tonight! Last week’s post never published for some reason and I just never quite realized it. I only now found it was still in draft format so my apologies.
Tonight buddy-child and I decided to go out for sushi. It doesn’t take much to convince me to not cook dinner and go there to eat instead. In fact, it’s usually my idea! Don’t feel like cooking – sushi night. While there we spent almost the entire time talking about the upcoming prom. It is coming up fast. At this point, buddy is going to have to really crash and burn to not graduate. She just got her mid-term report card and she is passing and doing well. She’s focused, she’s motivated and she has a brand new prom dress hanging up in her closet just waiting for the perfect pair of shoes.
Aside from the logistics of who is getting their hair done where and how that all is going to work, the conversation largely centered around her two main buddies and the issues they are facing with their parents and getting permission to go to the prom party. The way they do it around here is the kids buy a ticket, they all get bused to someone’s field and they bring tents and the bus returns them in the morning. No one is allowed to drive to and from and the ticket money typically is used to buy kegs of beer. Notices are sent home to parents and guardians making sure that they realize that alcohol will be there and that they give permission for their child to go. There is supervision but it’s just to make sure no emergencies happen and that no one drinks their way into a hospital stay. Right or wrong, I get why they do this because kids used to die doing it themselves without supervision and while trying to hide what they do.
Her two main buddies are having a hard time getting permission. But here’s the thing. Both of them are allowed to sleep over at their boyfriend’s on the weekends (as in, sleep together not just stay at each others homes) so worries over staying out all night with their boyfriends (and 300 other kids watching… ) seems to be a silly thing to be worried about. Both parents know their kids drink and have known that for quite some time so worries about them drinking seem kind of silly too. In both cases, it has become a control issue and you have to wonder what on earth the point is. I’ve mentioned before that her and step-daughter’s friends all have crazy parents (or parents with issues at the very least) and it’s coming out once again at one of the biggest events of the girls’ lives. I’m hoping the kids manage to find a way to make it work with parental support since these are memories that should have them feeling good about the upcoming transitions in their lives, not angry and resentful.