The end of the world as we know it

One of the toughest times as a parent is watching your kids go through a bunch of really sad or difficult things and for one reason or another, you’re not able to be there to take care of them or make it better.  As the kids start to get older and get on with their lives, this has happened a few times and it’s scary and heart-breaking all at the same time.

Boy-child got involved with a girl he met through school while away at University.  Nice girl and he was so in love.  I’m suspecting he was tailoring his life around this girl and he would have followed her almost anywhere.  He left to go out west because that is where she is from and that is where she went home to for the summer.

While he was out west, she suddenly and unexpectedly broke up with him.  I still don’t know what the issue was other than there was something that he wasn’t willing to change for her so she ended it.  It was some kind of deal breaker for her, whatever it was.  He was devastated.  This was the love of his life.  He was also a four day drive away from home.

He started posting messages on facebook about how he was going to “lose it”.  The ex-girlfriend messaged older girl-child at one point to say that she wanted boy-child to stop contacting her and leave her alone (I think he was drunk texting her in the middle of the night).  He wouldn’t answer the phone when I called the first day or two.  Talk about stressful.  You just have all kinds of worry and anxiety about your kids but these are things they have to learn how to get through mostly on their own.  Still, being so far away from home was a nightmare.  How could I make it better if he wasn’t here?

It was probably better that I wasn’t nearby because he did manage to learn to survive and now he knows he will make it through a tough time like that because he can and he did.  Still, it was so hard.  I had nightmare thoughts of all the stupid things he was capable of (potentially of course).  Luckily for all of us, he made it through in one piece and continued on with his life in  good shape.